Our case was dragged out over 7 years until we were financially and emotionally destroyed. Only then did I accept a deal to stop the children from being adopted out because they wouldn’t give the kids back until I had a conviction. The children’s division wanted the mother to testify against me but she wouldn’t because they wanted more than what happened so they wouldn’t let her have custody either. I took a deal that was basic probation and not forced to register, but after six months of probation the judge ordered me to report to the s.o. officer. I refused to sign the acknowledgement putting me on the registry, but they threatened me with jail. I eventually signed because I knew there was no fighting this judge since I was out of money and had no lawyer. I now have to register for life because I made a mistake many people make. My crime was carelessly leaving adult material in a place my 6 year-old could find and was exposed to but that wasn’t enough for a conviction. The police dropped the investigation but the children’s division kept the children in foster care, pressuring the mom to say more happened and convincing them that the children had been abused. The children were abused in foster care and are now adults who do not trust the system or their own memories. It was horrific and political abuse of a whole family to save face when children’s division realized they overstepped. That was 2009. Now in 2025 I’m a single dad of small children and still on the registry. We all moved out of Missouri as soon as we could but the registry follows us and affects the children who don’t even know about it. I can’t get stable work because most jobs cannot employ people forced to register due to insurance reasons and jobs that can or do hire people forced to register are typically abusive or pay so little you can’t get by. Most colleges won’t allow a person forced to register to attend even online. It is a social death sentence that doesn’t do anything more to protect people than common sense would. In my time on probation I attended state ordered group therapy. I witnessed multiple men die from not being able to live with the weight of being forced to register, not from guilt but from the social ostracizing. The ones that really try to change are usually the ones that can’t take it because it doesn’t matter what you do. People forced to register aren’t considered to be humans anymore and it doesn’t matter if they were victims. The system has failed, and once you turn 18 you are now the problem not a symptom.
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