Musings of a Mother
The recent confirmation hearings of Brett Kavanaugh have been one more irritation that has compelled me to write this message. A few years ago when I first discovered WAR, I recall reading there were about 600, 000 registrants, one of which is my very much loved son. Today I see on the same site there are over 900, 000. I’m surprised Brett Kavanaugh is not added. This is not a political posting about the hearings, but what my husband once said: “Everyone is a sex offender.” And my best friend said: “He (my registrant son) is not a real sex offender.” One thing that goes through my mind: Has the country gone crazy? Is there no sense of level headedness or compassion or fairness? Why are all registrants lumped together on a public list? Furthermore, why are registrants who have served their time subjected to a lifetime of shame and ongoing draconian punishment?
My son has had some fortunate experiences which should be the “normal” for all registrants if the laws were sane and people truly educated. He got a job right out of jail at a good company that chose to hire him because he was honest, they liked him, and they needed him. It is a physically hard job but he can survive. He lives in a community where he grew up and has not been treated unfairly. The police have been professional. He met a wonderful girl who loves him to pieces and accepted his mistake from the past. After almost 10 years, he is happy for the most part and has come out of his shell. Thank God!
This beautiful girl in his life wants him to accompany her to her brother’s wedding in FL. Why is it impossible for him to fulfill that wish? Because he has to register within 48 hours in that state. He did that before and when you google his name, his picture comes up as a FL sex offender because he went there for addiction recovery. Yes, he has a double cross, but he IS clean and sober today. Thank you God.
Just some of my thoughts tonight. There will be more...
I am reluctan
t to jump on the bandwagon against Kavanaugh since it happened so long ago and it is a he said, she said situation. Which as we all know has happened to a lot of us. I want to wait and see first.
how would you feel if someone came out 30 years after the fact and accuses you of something ANYTHING and have it effect your job opportunity today? This should have been kept secret and investigated for the truth before dragging someone's up to this point good name thru the mud.. just dirty pool i smell a rat
I totally agree.
This is why people should advocate for Statutes of Limitations. I know there may be limitations or concerns when the alleged offense is against a child, I get that, but what about the years after the alleged victim turns 18? How does the accused defend themselves when all the evidence is gone? How can a true justice system convict when all the evidence is gone?
The problem now is there are so many people that are willing to say anything just for their 15 minutes of fame. If I were a celebrity I would be nervous because if you knew someone from several years ago they can come forward and say you did something just to get the attention. No one needs proof to destroy someones reputation anymore.. this whole country has gone insane.. Celebrities should be afraid they should be very afraid.. The irony is witch hunts are fun for them until they realize everyone is a potential witch.
I was discussing this with my mom and I also brought up the point that if they are going to go back to the day of birth, society may miss out on some potentially good leadership. I would hate to think that I or anyone I knew would have done something and honestly forgot about it because of the years past. Not only is this harmful to the people who may be under review but also the family, friends, employees, that the person may contact with. I am OK with seeing if a person is fit for a position, but how far back should we go and what should be made public.
This is a witch hunt. Kavanaugh is starting to get a little taste of what being on the regestry is like whether he realizes it or not.
Saw in the news harvard will not allow him to go back to teaching his classes there. He lost his job as a professor.
Many people are already pinning him as a sex offender to be shunned. They are not allowing the FBI to investigate before forming an opinion.
Personally I believe there are too many gaps and inconsistencies in her story along with her accusation being so close to the nomination not to think she is falsely accusing him.
If her story just happens to be true, I really dislike her for the political stunt she is pulling.
How many more times will a political shell be pulled out of the woodwork to stop a canadiate or someone running for office based on a sexual misconduct accusation alone without evidence.
How many more people will false accusations stop, and not just in the political feild? I see this as a trend that will eventually hurt the people who are true victims.