My name is Sarah and I never thought my life would be like this. My ex/best friend whom has been in my life for over 20 years was accused by the family of a 16 year old girl of molesting her. He was 19 and lived in a small town in the midwest. His family was from California and known to be “weird hippy types”. The girl was a runaway, her father was in law enforcement. She claimed her parents hit her and needed a place to stay. So in what I can only assume was a preemptive attack they accused Josh of these terrible things. Perhaps she did herself to minimize the trouble she would get into. When it all went to court; Josh’s own lawyer scared him into taking a plea bargain. Said otherwise it would turn into 10+years in prison. He said taking a plea deal would get him a couple years max and then it would be stricken from his record. Well he got out after 2 years and now suddenly sexual registry laws have changed and he can’t live anywhere. His family is long gone. I am the only person left who really helps. Though romantically we are no longer together, I still do what I can. I found him a small piece of land where he was living in his RV. Though now a park is being built nearby and we are uncertain and terrified all over again. He forgot to update the address on his drivers license and is now sitting in jail again. Can’t bond out cause its his second non- compliance. The first one happened after a registration officer told him over the phone that he could leave the state for a few days and then acted like the conversation never happened. But I promise you it did. This same guy was waiting and hiding in the woods to make sure he lived where he said he was living. Incidentally this was in the middle of winter and Josh was living in a tent with a buddy heater. This guy had it out for him. Now they aren’t letting him bond, and I’m trying to keep it together. Honestly I wanted to start my own life years ago but it looks like I’ll never get to. I don’t have extra money for good lawyers and such or else he would have been off the registry list long ago. It was 25 years ago.
Anyways…no family is a death sentence for someone in this situation and I don’t really have anyone here either. Just average income and job.
The thing that bothers me the most is that all of our friends have known the whole time that he was innocent and agree wholeheartedly about how terrible it is how he has to live. (no electricity, no water, constant fear) but at the end of the day I’m the only one trying in whatever way I can to help. I can’t talk to authorities because of anxiety but I provide food, rides, showers, and the tiny piece of property I found that’s barely big enough for the RV. it gets tiring…I can’t live a happy normal life so long as he can’t…foolish maybe. It is what it is. Thanks for letting me share.