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I am leaving this story for someone who wants to remain anonymous....
My son Jonathan was arrested on August 25th, 2014 for possession of child pornography. We explained to his lawyer that he had just bought the computer on line a month prior and that the he had an open WIFI. His lawyer (public defender) showed no interest of helping him and just wanted him to take a plea bargain but my son refused. My son took a polygraph test and passed it with flying colors, he took a forensic psychological sexual test and also passed it with a 100% showing that his mind did not think like a pedophiles mind and his lawyer still refused to show the test results to the prosecutor. We asked to hire a forensic computer specialist to view his computer and to see the dates to when those pictures were installed in to the computer and the lawyer refused to let us hire one, without his approval the prosecutor would not turn over the computer. We even showed him a big mistake on the affidavit for a search warrant that the FBI turned in to the judge to have signed, to which it was dated August 15th 2014 and he stated that on August 28th 2014 he recovered a disk from my son showing that he was in possession of child pornography and we explained how did he have it 2 weeks in advance and the lawyer just said that it was a simple typo. He went through 3 public defenders in less than 2 years, the second one retired after only a month and a half. When he got the new public defender, he met with my son once before court then explained to the judge that they were ready for trial. Throughout the course of many court hearings he had one judge the expressed that the case and the charges didn't seem right, she was supposed to be the judge for his trial and my son’s attorney and the prosecutor quickly filed a motion to have her replaced. My son ended up getting 272 years in a maximum prison here in Arizona where he is in solitary confinement, he has never been arrested, gotten in to trouble or even gotten a parking ticket. There are murders and actual child molesters who have molested and raped children who get less time and my son has received a double life sentence for crimes that he didn't commit for pictures that were not even his. We need your help, we have not talked to him or seen him in over 2 months and my son has no business being in prison.
THIS IS INSANE!! HORRIBLE!! Contact the news? anyone? get this story out there. That lawyer sounds terrible. How is this even possible?? I feel so bad for you. I would say Dr. Phil but he seems like an ass and is usually condescending of anyone accused of a sex offense. Do not give up hope. and Solitary Confinement??!! for what!?! Time for a new lawyer! I'm so sorry. Sounds like you have a good case though.
I am so sorry that this is happening to you. Sex offense "laws" do not really seem, to me at least, to follow any lines of logic; they often seem arbitrary and subject to the whim of whomever has "the power" and their personal political and religious agendas ie -whatever puts the most money in their pockets... and what state, what county and what city you live in.
Family members remember that we still hold some power, I guess- with our vote. Before they take that away too. We can elect local judges and prosecuting attorneys, hell... someone with some guts could even run for city council or a state representative of your district and bring this matter to Washington DC... as with all the current accusations being thrown around; like Kavanaugh, they've seen no one is immune to dirty moves and bringing up stuff that happened between two teenagers, over 30 years ago? really? Who will be next?
What's the worst that can happen to me and my family? ... the worst would be my husband losing his "freedom"( the person forced to plea bargain for his freedom because of a pack of lies) or myself... lets see... what is the worst that could happen to ME?? oh.. I dunno... maybe being set up just like the OP's son, but for playing NEOPETS in 2005 when my then 17 year old daughter, who also played, suggested I would enjoy playing the games, which I did really enjoy and it really soothed me and got my mind off the possibility that I may die.. which now I wish I had... as I went thru rounds of chemotherapy and ATRA to save my life, while I was recovering from APL leukemia. I don't know what they could possibly accuse me of..... earning two neoquest 1 trophies, one neoquest 2 trophy , imperial spelling champion and Hasse Bounce second place.... among other awesome achievements, but I am sure with the right wing religiosity political agendas and their subsequent hypocritical behaviors they will just accuse me of being a pedophile hanging out on neopets. So here is your chance, as I am sure this forum is monitored ... maybe even the FBI.... who knows?
It sounds like you have a good case, and you would benefit from a good lawyer, but I know firsthand it's hard to find one who will work clients financially, like if you do not have 5k to just hand over at once. I did notice some listed on this web site, and that's a positive step in the right direction in my opinion. I know if I were a lawyer, I would be very interested in this subject and in finding strong cases, pro bono, to use for State Supreme Court rulings... as at this point neither my husband or myself ( or his current p.o. officer) knows WHAT exactly are the rules for travel within the state and other important personal matters. It seems to be up to the whim of whomever is in charge, and for the past 7 years, and his three prior P.O. Officers have all been alright and everything has been basically okay, except for the new crazy story aka LIE in 2015 that got him on the states child maltreatment registry, but now there is a new " supervisor" at some remote site in the state that seems to be going by the book; as now posted on the local P.O. office door there is a sign which basically reads: travel permits for non sex offense people needs two day ahead of time processing. For sex offense people there is a FIVE DAY ahead of time application. This seems arbitrary and unjust.
Anyway, good luck with finding a lawyer. That is horrible that they would give your son hundreds of years and solitary confinement for something like that, that he didn't even do... hell... even if he did do it... this is cruel and unusual punishment for ANYBODY forced to plea and or convicted.. even if the charges ARE true... I mean if they do this to your son, what are they going to do with that man in Springfield Missouri a few years back? I never heard. I try to keep my head in the sand; as it stresses me out greatly and adversely effects my and my husbands mental health. IF they are halfway intelligent they'd commit him and try to work with him to find out what happened to him that this wound up happening. That would be useful. Not frying him. and while I am being a snap queen- Not public registries that inspire hysteria either.
I am rambling, so I will just stop now. I know I sound very angry. I am, and justly so. Ultimately anger is just sad's bodyguard. Sad but true. We live in a violent dysfunctional society that tries to brainwash people into thinking that healthcare is a socialist plot and actual war is okay. I am home. I am in control of myself, and I am okay... but I have a lot of anger and sadness to the point where I am becoming very fatalistic and just feel like I have snapped and gone over the edge into madness.
I've lost jobs over this. I've been singled out by corrupt local law enforcement over this. I have been harassed over this. I have been shunned and excluded over this. We have been ripped off and given poor service over this. We have had vandalism at our home over this. Law enforcement refuses to charge the woman who brought all of this down because of MONEY and GREED, even thou I have proof from the bank. They are corrupt. The whole town is corrupt. and yes. that's what I said.
Today is my birthday. My husbands is in a few days. Happy belated birthday Vicki Henry.
and I apologize for ranting about my pain, when you are also in great pain. I'm not trying to hijack your thread : )
I just joined today to Woman against Registry. My son is serving a life sentence, at 10 years is might get be paroled. My son just turned 26 years old. This is the first birthday, I couldn't bake him a cake or fix his favorite meal. Nevada laws are very strict. We just got the okay to appeal his case. Our defense lawyers(2) were not good at all. It has been a nightmare for me and my family ever since he got arrested for sexual conduct with a older woman. I guess Nevada likes their prisons full. We don't have any support groups. Thank God for support groups like to this online to help. I do appreciate it. He has been locked up for 78 days. One day at time. I do appreciate all the posts. It helps me that I am not alone. thanks for listening to me.
Kerrie Marie, that is insane! A LIFE SENTENCE for a 26-year-old accused of sexual conduct with an older woman?!!! What about the woman? Was she accused of sexual conduct with a younger man? Definitely become his advocate and appeal. Yes, you do have to take it one day at a time. Are you able to visit? No, you are not alone. Feel free to message me if you need to talk. Keep the faith... ♥
we just got the okay to appeal the case. I can't visit him for three months, it's been 83 days since I have seen my son. thank you for your email. I am glad I am not alone. I will keep the faith. Yes this case is very interesting. I will keep you posted.
A life sentence in Nevada? a 26 year old with an older woman? What is the crime? sorry. Maybe i missed something?
sexual assault. felony A and when you go to court and lose you get 10 years to life possible parole at 10 years.
yes she is a year older. She is not a nice person. I hope my son wins his appeal and justice will be served.
My son turned 25 a couple days ago. Its 3 years into 5 years probation and 22 more years to go on the Michigan registry. Although, I'm aware nothing is ever permanently erased from the Internet.
My son was diagnosed with Aspergers Disorder which has been a hindrance in his life. And being on the registry has hindered him even more.
After the FBI raid, our family waited in a nightmare limbo for 2 years before they officially arrested him and charged him with a federal crime. On the same day my 21 year old son was charged federally, my mother passed away suddenly.
He still lives at home which I'm thankful. However, by him still living with us and his siblings, being listed on the public registry has altered our lives. Especially his younger sister, she was 14 when he went on the registry. My son could not be around anyone under 18. My daughter missed out on normal things like sleep overs at our house, skipping Halloween at our house, family trips limited or vacations out of state, cookouts at my brothers. The list goes on. Next year, his sister graduates high school and he is not allowed to attend.
The hardships we've had to endure have been crippling. When this all started we were low income. We sold everything to get him a good lawyer. We were evicted because we couldn't pay rent. We were nearly homeless because of residential restrictions. He was fired from 2 jobs and denied countless other jobs. He is forced to work dead end jobs for low pay. I was diagnosed with PTSD. My paranoia is out of control at times. Again the list goes on.
I'm scared what the future may hold for him and us.
I can relate to your recent message. My son just turned 26 years old. He has been in prison since December 4, 2018 that is 244 days. It's one day at a time. I too lost all my money and now paying back a family member who helped me for lawyer fees. Most of the lawyers are not nice. My son is serving Life in prison, possible parole at 10 years. One day at a time, my family and I are getting thru it. But I still keep the faith, trust God and help others. I hope this helps you. This website is really good for us. Hang in there. I am. Kerrie
WAR is affiliated with an organization specifically organized for the families having loved ones required to register who also have some level of autism or learning disability. Legal Reform for People Intellectually and Developmentally Disabled (LRIDD ). If you send me your contact information I can connect you with someone locally.
I have been trying to be a support system for a person who is forced to register (his crime happened before 1995) and it's difficult, to say the least. A few days ago, I got a text message from someone trying to get his phone number. At the same time, my friend is being harassed and threatened with bodily harm by his new next door neighbor. (I think the two instances are connected--that the neighbor was trying to get his phone number so they could harass him on all accounts-- this person had 5 phone numbers he thought were my friend's, but were actually old numbers of mine--including the current one he texted me at. I can only assume he got my numbers because I used to own the house my friend now owns.)
Anyway, my friend called the police and the police refuse to do anything. They wouldn't make a report--nothing. They claimed that they couldn't do anything until the neighbor actually harms him. They didn't consider the threats a threat or harassment. What kind of world are we living in when they can allow people to harass and threaten a person who is listed on the public registry??? What recourse does the threatened person have? It has been OVER 20 YEARS since his crime. He shouldn't even be ON the list-- he got grandfathered in when the courts said it was okay to go back before 1995 and put people on a list as far back as the oldest living person!
How does one in this situation defend themselves against attackers when even the sheriff's website has the disclaimer that you can't use their information to harass anyone? How do they get by with that?
@anxiousang I found Dr. Darrell Wolfe on the net. At first I thought he was nutty, but then he said the only way to get through life and to be a rock to others, is to love yourself. He also said " all you are are your thoughts". Those two things turned me around. My kid ain't calling home to hear me cry no more. I started working out, started wearing make up again and even shaved my legs. lol. On a water fast today. Been reading up on CBT therapy ( i highly recommend). That Doc was right, i need to be at my peak loving self, to help others. ( plus i was crying all the time and quit washing my hair for weeks and i started to smell lol) anyways. Next thing you know, I was raising my voice back to the attorney and being much more proactive. Joined every group I could and I am a landlord. People listed on the registry are welcome. I am giving back.
ptsd yes me too, but decided I am not letting those FBI agents take anymore from me. I want to be remembered smiling through this shit show of a life............
My son is intellectually disabled (age 22) and has autism. He is scheduled to plead out this coming week for one count of child pornography - under age of 14 and it makes me sick. He doesn't know what a trial is, what a polygraph test is and asked me if the registry was like the 'honor roll' at school. Supposedly we have a good plea -- one year suspended sentence, two years probation, random polygraph testing, sex offense treatment and 25 or lifetime on the registry (they don't know yet). My son's IQ is about a 12 year old level and his social emotional testing is at a 3-5 year old level. This is civil death for not just him (he doesn't understand what he did was wrong other than that 'it's again the law') but for us. He would never be fully independent, but this pretty much guarantees that my husband and I will never be able to enjoy (that word seems cruel at the moment) our retirement -- we'll be almost 80 in 25 years.
I have never been so sad, angry, hopeless, depressed in my life with such a hopeless outcome for my son. Today my husband and I were going over his favorite activities -- his very favorite -- the 4th of July parade so he can wave at the firetrucks - swimming at the pool, going to the skateboard shop, going to the beach (which is a 'park'). I guess they are all off of the table. Will he be able to participate in Special Olympics? For the past year, he's been home, watching television 16 hours/day. Will this be for the next 25 years?